Its been a couple of months since i started a podcast.
I’ve received countless mails, messages and testimonials from so many people that assure me it was a project worth investing my time in.
Surprisingly, I also found out that quite a few people were actually depressed listening to these podcasts. The dialogue i heard from a few listeners was: “The podcast is very nice, but the guests are so intimidating. They’ve all achieved so much that they make us look so inferior”. This set me thinking. Why do people believe that in order for one person to win, another has to lose?
The Key insight is to change the narrative from one of “winning” to one of “contributing”. From childhood, we are taught to win at all costs. This is a very stressful view to have. It is what Stephen Covey used to call “The limited pie” mindset. In the old concept of winning, the pie is limited. If someone takes a large piece of the pie, there is only that much lesser pie left for us. For one person to win, another should lose.
In the new concept of contributing, the pie is unlimited and everyone has enough to share. The pie keeps getting bigger and bigger. Nobody is competing with anyone. We do the best we can without bothering about the outcome. When we change our narrative to contributing rather than winning, everything changes.
Imagine waking up in the morning and saying “How can I contribute to the world?” instead of “How can I win“?
And then, paradoxically, everybody wins.